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#write28days – Day 5 Don’t Compare Yourselves to Others

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Welcome to day 5 of my #write28days series on Homeschooling Helps, Hints and Resources.  Today I want to talk about something I have even struggled with through the years.  I am sure you can understand what I am talking about – the irresistible desire to compare ourselves to others around us.

You know you attend some event, are reading online, or hear from someone else about this mother who seems to be doing everything correctly.  Her house is immaculate.  Her children do amazing activities, crafts and other homeschooling things that make you feel like you and your children are nowhere near where you should be.  Or her three-year-old is already reading.  Or whatever else has the ability to make us doubt ourselves.

Trust me when I say I have been there and done that.  It is hard not to do it.  With the Internet, Pinterest, Instagram and other social media outlets, we are constantly bombarded with seeing what appears like perfection around us.

But what works for another family may not be right for your family or my family.  As a military family, I attempt to adapt our work schedule around Dad’s military.  So when Dad is off, I know I do not have to feel guilty about not doing schoolwork those days.  Also, some of our children are not gifted in math, but they have other incredible gifts and talents to share with the world.  So I attempt to find things that suit their interests and gifts.

I also know some of my children are not morning people, so trying to start our mornings before about 9:00 am will result in a total disaster.  Also when our boys were younger, I knew they could not handle sitting in one place working in workbooks for hours at a time.  I had to mix up stationary work with work that allowed them to be free to move around as needed.  I also had to allow for them to complete some assignments orally to keep them interested and on task.

Some children may take longer to master certain concepts or reach certain levels in certain subjects.  And there is nothing wrong with that.  It is important not to push our children or even ourselves so hard to be like someone else to where we fail to accept and honor the individuals God created us to be.

So Mom or Dad, trust me when I tell you, every homeschool, every family and even every child within a family is different.  After all, God created us that way.  So it is important to remember that the differences make the world that God created.  So do not get wrapped up in the lies that just because your homeschool or your child does not look like someone else’s means you are not doing what you need to do.

So Mom or Dad, trust me when I tell you, every homeschool, every family and even every child within a family is different.  After all, God created us that way.  So it is important to remember that the differences make the world that God created.  So do not get wrapped up in the lies that just because your homeschool or your child does not look like someone else’s means you are not doing what you need to do.

Being different is okay.  Take a deep breath and accept that not every day has to be perfect.  Nor does every day have to look like the days of those who appear to be doing everything correctly.  I promise you if you asked that mom who is posting the “perfect” pictures on Instagram or blogging about their perfect day or posting on Facebook about how amazing their children are, they would tell you every day is not perfect.  Plus they may even have people they think have it more together than themselves.

If you would like to read my other posts in this series, click here.